Today on the podcast I’m talking about a topic that is a little bit woo woo – for best effect definitely listen to this episode, but I want to talk about some tips and tricks to help you manifest your baby in 2021 and bring that little person earthside, and in the process talk more about manifestation in general and also what it takes to generally bring success into the world… in ways that we have not been brought up thinking creates success.
So if you’re tuning into this episode, I’m guessing that 2020 has been a rather shitty year and you’ve been through…. A lot. You might be feeling a little jaded, a little hopeless and down and as we’re about to come into Christmas… dreading the next few days. If that’s how you’re feeling, I truly feel you and I want to let you know that you’re super normal.
So let’s see if we can shift some of that energy and get things moving for you in the next 7 steps.
- Get clear on exactly what it is that you want
I want to become a mother with my own eggs, naturally. Dive in a little deeper into what it is that you want and the feelings and emotions that you’re trying to inspire. You want to be a mother and to nurture a little person. You want to feel needed and share a deep connection. If you’re fixated on the top level, you aren’t fully able to engage with what it is that you’re ACTUALLY looking for, and we need to be super clear to the universe about what it is that we want, at all levels. And plot twist: sometimes the universe gives you what you need, rather than what you want, and sometimes there’s a bunch of lessons and necessary growth and discomfort on the way.
- Release your grip on control
It’s super shitty at times, but unfortunately, whether or not your baby comes into the world, exactly how it comes into the world, and when it comes into the world is out of your control. And one of the biggest ways in which we screw ourselves over is in placing our self-worth and judging our success or failure on whether these things happen. It’s one of the core reasons we feel so crappy on our fertility journey. You need to release your grip on controlling those things because maybe your path is slightly different – but if you’re completely fixed on minute details and the HOW, rather than just believing it will happen and things will pan out one way or another, you will stay stuck. The things you can control on your journey
- Believe it
I can hear a bunch of you now thinking to yourself that it’s impossible as you’ve been so hurt in the past, but taking aligned action means that you have to believe it is possible for you.
And the statistics ARE in your favour, if you continue and if you get help, and are prepared for things to possibly look a little different.
How can you help yourself believe that it’s possible for you?
There are a few ways to do this – one is to look at infertility success stories, not as signs that everyone around you is falling pregnant and you’re not, but signs that it is possible for you too. If we can work through the initial discomfort of actively going out of our way to be around and see other pregnant women and success stories and double lines – but rather the spreading of baby dust our way, and normalising that it IS possible, it makes it so much easier.
- Remind yourself of what you’re working towards
Whether that’s vision boards (or check out my Instagram Reels to see an easy way to create a digital vision board), or a letter to yourself, or regularly conducting a ritual during the new “The Fertility Warriors” on – what can you do to remind yourself that you’re making progress.
Another trick you might want to try is a progress log – whereby you keep an excel spreadsheet of every little step forward and way that you’re continually moving forward on your journey.
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- Shift the Energy
Creating an abundant and gratitude-driven mindset is an incredible way to help bring forth that energy – it’s magnetic. Think about what you’re trying to bring into the world and what things would look like if you’re a mother – would it look like slowing down? Would it look like stepping more into your feminine energy? Would it look like becoming more of a homebody? Don’t want for your baby to come earthside – create it now.
- Create Space
Babies take a lot of energy – emotional, physical, environmental – it’s literally creating another human being from nothing. Where are you missing space in your life? Are you exhausted? Do you need to create more space in your relationship? Do you need to invest in creating more emotional energy to be able to cope with the ups and downs and sleepless nights and endless crying of a baby? Time for some self-reflection on this one. How can you create more space?
- Dream it into reality
Similar to the very first step – I want you to physically dream about what life as a mother would look like and the scenarios. I used to visualise myself walking down a cobblestone alleyway holding the hand of a girl who was about 4 years old. I still have a vivid picture of what that looks like in my mind.
- Let go of the timeline
I saved the hardest one for last. This is HARD. But the universe goes on its own timeline. And sometimes you’ll have things on your vision board or dream about things for years before they become reality. You just have to believe that it is meant for you and to continue telling the universe that it’s your time and you’re ready to welcome your baby into the world.
If you’ve got this far, I want to let you know that I’m sending you SO much baby dust.
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