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The first three things that helped me feel better


Today on the podcast we’re talking about the first three things that helped me feel better.

It was 10 years ago exactly that Ross and I started trying to conceive, which feels like a long time ago, but also feels like just yesterday – I still remember all of the real and raw emotions of trying to conceive.

And two years into our journey, after our first IVF cycle, I had a miscarriage. I thought I knew rock bottom prior but after our loss, it was like I now knew the molten lava in the centre of the earth.

I didn’t want to share how we were feeling with anyone (I actually didn’t feel like I could) and it wasn’t so much a feeling of anger (even though I was angry) it was more a feeling of being broken and lost. I don’t know if you can relate?

So, what changed, what helped after that moment for me… that’s what we’re talking about on today’s podcast.

Things that helped me Feel betterSo often I have people ask me how to feel better and the answer is… unfortunately, not as simple as one, 5-minute exercise that people can do each day. In all honesty, there were a number of things that I did (but mostly mindset shifts) that helped me to radically shift the way I was feeling and coping on my journey.

But if you had to start somewhere, what would you do?

Here are the first 3 things I did that helped me feel better:

Had a circuit breaker

We needed to get out and break our routine. I never quite understand the logistics of ‘taking a break’ because I was so acutely aware of when I was ovulating etc BUT, we got away on a last-minute trip to Lombok… and not a trip where we went out sightseeing or anything. A trip where there was pretty much nothing I could do but sit with my feelings and rest. I was… although I’d have never acknowledged it at the time… so so needed. And it got us away from work (where let’s be honest I couldn’t concentrate anyway) and everyone’s constant questions. It gave me space to feel what I was feeling, and regain some energy.

Gratitude

This one practice has been the thing that I’ve done that has had one of the biggest impacts on my life and that of my clients. Each night I began writing in a little journal, 3 things I was grateful for. Not just the big things – but mostly the little things.

As I understand more about our brains now that I’m qualified I know the mechanics of how this works in our brains and for a practice that takes literally less than five minutes per day – the rests can be profound.

I made the decision to put myself first

I didn’t ‘do’ anything in this regard but it was a massive shift and one that I don’t think many women have made – even if they tell themselves that they put themselves first. It was a moment of saying that I was worthy of spending money on myself (especially if it was going to help me FEEL better), I was worthy of my time, and I was worthy of saying no to things that didn’t serve me. So so many women will say that they put themselves first, but I’d argue, don’t.

I used to feel guilty saying no to people.

I used to feel guilty spending money on myself (things like buying clothes, yes, but on my mindset and things that were more abstract – massively!)

I used to feel guilty taking sick days… when I was actually sick!

And so…. Things shifted for me when I decided that I was worthy.

I’d spend time and money investing in abstract things like my mindset and programs that would help my emotional health (knowing that my husband would think nothing of a night out with the boys, a carton of beer or even a new surfboard – my goodness – I could absolutely spend $297 on a course about creating small steps to feeling better!)

I’d spend time resting and not feeling guilty.

I’d spend weekends pursuing new hobbies.

That decision was the start of being able to find what did work for me, and those were the three things that helped me feel better.

Robyn x

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