This pep talk is for anyone who is struggling on this journey, and struggling with feeling like they’re not enough, or feeling like they’re not doing enough. I know that this journey is really tough. I know that it might feel like every time you open up your Facebook feed it’s just filled with pregnancy announcements. Every time you walk into the supermarket it might feel like all of a sudden there is something in the water, and everyone around you is falling pregnant, or has children.
I know that it can feel like everything, when you’re at a fertility clinic, just takes so much longer than you thought it would. And that maybe you thought that you would be further along by now. I know that it can feel like the diet changes are so hard. All of these things can compound the feelings of failure and guilt that you have, and compound the feelings that you’re not enough, or that you’re not doing enough, or that you’re not quite strong enough to cope on this journey.
I want to let you know that you are strong enough. You are more resilient. Even if it feels like your resilience, and your strength, and your coping skills have left the door, I promise you that they are still there. It might just be that they’re being tested right now. I know that it can feel like maybe somehow everybody else is magically coping with this journey in a different way. I guarantee to you that so many other people are struggling in exactly the same way as you.
You might be thinking, why does this fucking hurt so much?
Why is this journey taking absolutely everything out of me?
Why does it feel like every time I hit rock bottom I then hit another low?
What I want to let you know is that it is just that hard. When you feel like you don’t have an ounce left to give on this journey, it is just that hard. When it feels like you’re not coping, and maybe you’re doing something wrong, you’re not. It’s just that hard on this journey. The stress of infertility has been shown to be comparable to that of an AIDS diagnosis, of heart disease, or a cancer diagnosis. It’s that hard.
You are doing amazing. Perfection is a unicorn. It doesn’t exist. So, if you are looking to magically tick every single box that you can tick of things that you should be doing to fall pregnant, you are never going to get a perfect score because it just doesn’t exist. There is no way that you can be perfect on this journey.
Today, I want you to give yourself some grace. You are human. You are completely normal on this journey. You are not doing anything wrong.
This journey is just that hard.
I know that when you go to bed sometimes you don’t know how you’ll have the strength to make it through another day. I can tell you right now that you do, and you will. You do have the strength to do this. You just need to take it one day at a time. Survive the day, then survive the night, but then rinse and repeat. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, I know that you can do this.
Know that at some point this journey ends.
There is a finish line, so today take a deep breath.
Summon all of your strength.
Step out there tall and proud because you are coping with this like a badass.
You have got this, and I believe in you.
doors closing: fertility warrior intensive
There are just a few short days left in my Fertility Warrior Intensive Program before the doors close. The doors will probably only open in about 6 to 12 months again, so if you’re struggling on your journey I’d really love to be there supporting you, teaching you, and sharing the things that I’ve learnt along the way. I can also help keep you accountable for some of the things that I know that you know that you probably should be doing to help yourself, from an emotional perspective, maybe even from a physical perspective, to manage this journey in a way that serves you better and helps you cope a little bit better.
The Fertility Warrior Intensive is a 12-week program, that gives you a bunch of resources, and as well as my full support and the support of my experts in the vault. For example, Darrien Minnie has provided a yoga series especially for our course.
Overall, the course is a holistic mind body program, and the results are there.